The Importance of the Postpartum Period, the Purpose of the Support
The Moroccan tradition has a super appropriate saying for the vulnerability of the postpartum period: „The new mother’s grave is open for forty days.”
Therefore it is crucial that we support and care for the new mother as best as we can in at least the first few weeks of the postpartum period, so she can have a smooth transition to motherhood and avoid getting depressed from feeling abandoned amidst of all the pressure and liability a new baby means. Apart from their healing effects, the main purpose of the different rituals is that the Nafsa can feel how important she is and what a monumental thing she has accomplished by growing a new life in her belly and bringing it into this world (no matter in what way it happened technically). We can celebrate the birth with all of this, since it is an equally significant rite of passage as the wedding, if not more important. I also find it very important that the mother can experience the gentle care and the unconditional love and acceptance so that she can have her cup full and pass all of the goodness onto her baby.